Surprisingly, money, looks, fame and even success have proven to be unreliable when it comes to offering sufficient self esteem.
Many celebrities and public figures have admitted to lacking in self confidence despite an abundance of success markers in their possession.
Come to think of it, even if these things provide self confidence, does it mean that that should be the only way to a healthy self esteem? I don’t think so.
So how exactly does one build self esteem?
1. Accept your uniqueness: I am and will always be an advocate for self study. What do you like? What don’t you like? What makes you tick? What is peculiar to you? Get a certificate in self study and use it to navigate your way through life.
I believe what makes self study such a daunting task is the discomfort that comes from discovering aspects of ourselves that do not necessarily conform to societal standards.
For instance, I do not have the natural ability or desire to socialize for long; sooner than later, I find a quiet exit and go home to my happy solitude.
If your proclivities are within legal and moral standards, accept yourself and revel in your uniqueness.
You don’t have to be something because it’s popular; your God given talent may very well vary from what’s in demand.
Stay true to your self.
2. Have boundaries: Accepting anything is common to those who have low self esteem but it is not going to help matters.
Like the saying goes, if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.
If you don’t like to be called by a certain moniker, let it be known.
If you are looking to be loved and not made a side dish, be very clear.
If you don’t like someone being handsy around you, don’t suffer fools gladly.
3. Know things: You may not understand the potential of knowledge in buttressing your confidence until you interact with those who cannot read or write.
The mere fact that you can contribute to the discussion gives a boost to your confidence.
Know a little of everything- sports, music, food, politics, culture, trends and the world.