Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use- Emily Post
Over a forth night, I have come across a number of definitions of a gentleman.
Some were expressed as a function of integrity; others were based on a man’s relationship with the ladies.
But one definition was worth saving: ‘a man of calm demeanor, strong preserve, intellectual thinking, polite yet meaningful speak and a good upbringing’.
The last two words in this definition form the basis of this article.
A gentleman (or any person of sophistication) is a person that is strikingly appealing to the five senses.
A compelling appearance(sight), pleasant scent(smell), sweetened speech(hearing), delicious substance(taste) and a welcoming touch(feel) all co habit in a gentleman or a lady.
The balance is therefore upset when one or more of these is/are lacking in an acclaimed gentleman or lady.
A good upbringing, according to the above definition suggests a check in all the five (sensory) boxes.
Yet a major area where many noticeably fall below the standard is in the area of scent.
We are responsible for taking utmost care of ourselves; anti-perspirant or deodorant, perfume, cologne, body spray etc. make the task easier.
It is hard to believe that barely half of the population use any form of deodorants or anti-perspirants.
If you do use an anti-perspirant or deodorant after bath, at least twice a day, you do well.
It is not enough to put on Tom Ford, lace up your Ferragamo, buckle your Giorgio Armani, click in your Longines, and appear like a Tom cruise.
Wearing a deodorant is not just yourself, it’s also for the benefit of others who you interact with daily.
Be a good neighbor. Be huggable. Be gallant.